Showing posts with label Inspiration. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Inspiration. Show all posts

Friday, May 31, 2013

Celebrity Bariatric Patient is an Inspiration

Before & after photo posted on Bart's Twitter feed.
Friday morning on the drive to work I was listening, as usual, to K-Love Radio. It's a contemporary Christian music station and they are on location this weekend for the K-Love Fan Awards in Nashville (which will be hosted by Phil and Jase from Duck Dynasty - love them!).

So they've got a lot of nominated artists on the air with DJs all throughout the weekend. And Friday the K-Love Morning Show crew, Craig, Amy, and Kankelfritz, were chatting with Bart Millard (yes, follow him on Twitter, he's hilarious!) of the band MercyMe about his progress with weight loss surgery. I first heard an interview with Bart about a year ago when he first announced he'd gotten WLS and was really impressed with the way he talked about his experience and how he's changing his life to become healthier.

This morning's interview was equally inspiring and I wanted to share it with you, the WLS community. Here's a link to listen to the interview:



Some highlights from the interview:

  • Bart is 1.5 years out from RNY Gastric Bypass Surgery
  • He's lost 122 pounds lost. The surgery allowed him to lost the first 70 pounds, then he had to "work at it" after that.
  • Pre-surgery medical conditions included: Type 2 diabetes, sleep apnea,  hypertension, high cholesterol, the start of congestive heart failure and a family history early mortality due similar co-morbidities. Most co-morbidities were eliminated within two days after surgery
  • Weight loss surgery is NOT for everyone. You have to be in the right mental place for it to work. 
  • WLS and psychological therapy need to go hand-in-hand. 
  • Many people think that WLS is the "easy way out" -- but don't let pride get in the way of what is best for your health and what God has planned for you.
  • "If they made a pill to fix alcoholism, who wouldn't take it?  Or if the doctor can insert a pin to set a broken ankle, you'd use that.  So if this operation works to lose the weight and cure diseases, why wouldn't you do it?"
Thank you Bart for inspiring so many of us with your music. And for being the voice of WLS that we can be proud of within our community. So many celebrities who go through bariatric surgery don't say the right things and lead many people astray, but your words of wisdom are spot on and I'm so thankful that you're open and honest about your experience. 

And to leave you with one of my favorite songs by MercyMe -- The Generous Mr. Lovewell





Thursday, March 17, 2011

It's all about the Journey


I saw this headline in the newspaper... It's talking about March Madness. But I couldn't help but to be reminded that WLS is all about the journey too. 

We often get so focused on getting to a magical goal weight or achieving various life goals we set for ourselves... We get so bogged down in thinking about the future that we forget to enjoy what is happening right now. In this very moment we should be celebrating where we are and being joyful for how far we've come. 

Take a deep breath and enjoy the journey today.



-- Sent from my Palm Pre

Thursday, February 10, 2011

Quote of the Day

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Me in the park last spring.




"You are the only 
shadow standing 
in your sunshine."


As quoted by Fabio Viviani
on Top Chef All-Stars last night


Thursday, December 09, 2010

5 Minutes a Day

At last month's support group meeting, I issued a challenge to my group members. "Spend 5 minutes a day doing something just for YOU." The goal is to realize that we need to take time out of our busy days of doing-for-others and focus on our own health and well-being. Not just our physical health, but most especially our emotional health. Here are some suggestions for how to spend your 5 Minutes.

  1. Tea Time: In the quiet of the early morning before the rest of the house is awake, take the time to brew yourself a cup of tea (or coffee or cocoa) and sit quietly with your thoughts. Keep the lights dim, curl up on the couch with a warm blanket and savor the alone-time. This ritual is also ideal for night time just before bed - it will allow you to clear your mind of the day's worries and prepare you for restful sleep.
  2. Yoga: I love Yoga and find the streches help me to relax while allowing my body parts to slowly wake up and become alert for the day. Many mornings I'll start my day with 3 or 4 Sun Salutations followed by a few other yoga poses. A full-blown yoga practice would be about an hour, but if I can start my day with 5 minutes of stretching and focus, it makes my day more relaxed overall.
  3. Meditation: There are many definitions of meditation. My personal theory is that meditation is simply a time to be quiet with your mind and allow yourself to be present in the moment. Sitting comfortably in a chair with your eyes closed and palms facing upward allows you to bring your focus to your breath and allow your  mind to relax in the moment.
  4. Pampering: It only takes 5 minutes to paint your toenails or put on a mud mask for a quick facial. It only takes a few minutes to slather your body with yummy smelling lotion or do a mini-manicure. Pampering your body isn't about being selfish or vain, it's about taking care of yourself in a way that will allow you to feel good about how you look and feel. Emotional health is just as important as physical health and pampering is all about taking care of how we feel about ourselves.
  5. Awareness Walk: I'm not talking about a "workout" when I suggest a walk. This is more of a meditative walk where you walk slowly and take in the sites and sounds around you. Notice the nip in the air as winter arrives. Notice the sounds of birds chirping as you walk through the woods. Notice how the air feels as it enters and exits your lungs. Feel the crunch of gravel under your feet. Just a short walk around your neighborhood or even your backyard will help you to appreciate the blessings you have in  your life.
What are you doing to take care of yourself? How will you spend your 5 Minutes a Day?

~Pam

Monday, December 06, 2010

Christmas is in the Air

I spent most of the weekend baking and decorating Christmas cookies for a Cookie Exchange I'm part of. I listened to Christmas carols all day Sunday while I worked in the kitchen. Yep - I'm officially in the holiday mood!

One of the songs I heard was this live performance of Josh Wilson singing Do You Hear What I Hear at the K-Love studios. It's officially my favorite version of this song -- and even creeped up on my list of favorite Christmas carols now that I've heard this version. Check it out.


Thursday, November 18, 2010

Quote of the Day

I was watching Oprah the other day (stop laughing at me!) and she was interviewing Marie Osmond. Something Marie said really struck me and I wanted to share it. You know I'm a research freak and need to learn as much as I can about stuff related to weight loss surgery -- and I've been known to say "knowledge is power". But Marie's version of this phrase is much better.

Knowledge is Power. 
Wisdom makes us Strong.

Knowing about how weight loss surgery affects our lives is essential. Knowledge about your body, how it works and how to overcome the emotional issues that brought us to morbid obesity -- all that knowledge is powerful to possess. But we must also have the wisdom to know how to apply that knowledge to our lives and how the knowledge we have can change our life. With the application of that knowledge comes wisdom. And that wisdom will make us stronger in our Journey to a Healthier Me.

~Pam

Thursday, November 11, 2010

Freedom is not Free

November 11th at 11:00 a.m. in cities all across America there were Veterans Day ceremonies. The 11th hour of the 11th day of the 11th month. Today we honor the men and women who have dedicated their lives to protecting the freedom we hold so dear. Some have sacrificed a portion of their life to serve in the armed forces and some have laid down their lives on the battlefield. For their dedication, sacrifice and love of our country, I am thankful.

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I have today off work and decided to attend the Saginaw County Veterans Day Ceremony at Hoyt Park. Veteran organizations around the county gathered along with active military men and women to celebrate a day to honor their service. Mayor Branch gave a moving speech and the Senior Guys Quartet from the Michigan Lutheran Seminary sang a beautiful rendition of the National Anthem and American the Beautiful.

Seeing the myriad of VFW and American Legion and Purple Heart organizations reminded me of my grandfather. I grew up in a family where the veteran lifestyle was instilled in my very soul. As a little girl I would spend time with the family at VFW events. And now, as a grown woman, I am still involved with the VFW where my grandmother and mother are members of the Ladies Auxiliary and I get asked to help with various projects from time to time. I'm so glad my grandfather taught the family the importance of loving your country and respecting what selfless men and women have given for my freedom. His love for America has made me a better person.

Thank you, Veterans, for all you do to keep America free!


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These are some photos from the ceremony. To see the rest, visit my Flickr Photostream.

Monday, November 08, 2010

I'll keep getting stronger

Saw this video on Ali Edwards' blog and just had to share it with ya'll. I love it! It makes me happy.





If what I am is what’s in me
Then I’ll stay strong
That’s who I’ll be
And I will always be the best
Me that I can be
There’s only one me
I am it
Have a dream
I’ll follow it
It’s up to me to try
(drums)
Oh, imma keep my head up high… HIGH!
Keep on reachin’ high… HIGH!
Never gonna quit
I’ll keep gettin’ stronger.
And nothins gonna bring me down… No!
Never gonna stop gotta go… Go!
Because I know
I’ll keep gettin’ stronger.
And what I Am is THOUGHTFUL.
And what I AM is MUSICAL.
And what I AM is SMART.
And what I AM is BRAVE.
And what I AM is HELPFUL.
And what I AM is SPECIAL.
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There’s nothing I can’t achieve
Because in myself I believe in love
Gonna keep our heads up high… HIGH!
Keep on reachin’ high… HIGH!
Never gonna quit
Just keep gettin’ stronger.
And nothins’ gonna bring us down… No!
Never givin’ up gotta go… Go!
Because I know I’ll keep gettin’ stronger.
What I AM is SUPER.
What I AM is PROUD.
What I AM is FRIENDLY.
What I AM is GROUCHY.
What U are is MAGICAL.
What U are is SPECIAL.
There’s nothing I can’t achieve
Because in myself I believe in NO (?)
Gonna hold my head up high
Keep on reachin’ high
I’m never gonna stop
I’ll keep gettin’ stonger.
Nothins’ gonna bring me down
Never givin’ up
Gotta go
Yeah…
I’ll keep gettin’ stronger.

Sunday, September 19, 2010

My Beach

I'm just heading home from my annual pilgrimage to the beach where I originally made the decision to change my life. I call it "My Beach" because when I'm there, I'm most often all alone and it gives me lots of quiet time to think and meditate.

Four years ago last month I decided to have weight loss surgery... To get healthy and to live a normal life. That decision was made after spending hours alone, sitting on the log you see in this photo.

Oh the changes I've seen in the past four years. I had no clue that my life would be so full and I'd be so much more happy.

As I do each year I spent time reflecting back on the past year and setting goals for the coming year. I'll share more later once I sort my thoughts out a bit more.

The sun is setting here and I'm enjoying the view for a while. I do love the beach, ya know. What could possibly be better?

Pam
-- Sent from my Palm Pre

Wednesday, September 15, 2010

My Friend Tammie


Tammie's new kissing buddy
 Have I told you about my friend Tammie? 

Tammie had the Vertical Sleeve Gastrectomy about 14 months ago and she's lost over 100 pounds so far. She's a member of one of my support group meetings and she's always so cheerful and optimistic about her journey and her new life after WLS.

Her journey has not been easy, though. She started this path with many complications and a few unpleasant stays in the hospital.  But you'd never know she had these struggles now. She's an amazing success and such an inspiration to me and the other members in our support group. She always has a smile on her face and is willing to share whatever tips or tricks she's learned along the way.


"He eats a lot and seems a little wild... I like him!"
(Are those Fruit Loops she's feeding him?)

What I love about Tammie is her caring spirit. It's normal for me to open my email inbox and find a note from her with just a few kind words that brighten my day.  "How was your week?"  or  "Did your presentation go well?"  or  "Enjoy your vacation! You deserve it."  It's so refreshing to receive an email from someone who is solely focused on wanting to check up on me and make sure I'm having a good day. It's not a polite, "how are you doing, now here's my problem, can you solve it" type of message, it's a true and real inquiry about how I'm doing. That never happens anymore, does it?  I love it!


Today in my email box she said this:
I wanted you to know I met a new "friend" while in the Upper Peninsula. He eats a lot and drinks a lot and seems a little wild.....I like him!

LOL! Gotta love a leading message like that. I thought she found herself a new man or something! But no, she sent along these adorable photos of her and a baby black bear. How fun!

So if you know Tammie and appreciate her as much as I do... tell her! And next time you see her, give her a big hug. Just because she's so awesome!

~Pam

Tuesday, August 31, 2010

Quote of the Day: Impossible

I heard a song on the radio this morning (I'm loving KLove lately!) and one line stood out to me. I wanted to share with you the quote and also the song.


Impossible is not a word. It's reason for someone not to try.

It's from the song What Faith Can Do by Kutless.

Thursday, August 26, 2010

Meeting WLS Friends in Cincinnati

As you know, I spent this past weekend in Cincinnati at the Obesity Help Conference. I've loaded all my photos up to Facebook (and then my email inbox exploded with tagging, comments and general mayhem) - but I'll include a few of the highlights here too.

For me the conference was mostly about having a chance to meet - in real life - people from all over the country that I've been chatting with online for the past three years. Yes, the conference part of it was great too and I learned some new and interesting things... but mostly it was a social event for me.

A highlight of the conference was a presentation by Dr. Garth Davis from Big Medicine. He spoke about healthy eating and organic food. I'll write more about his presentation in another post with links to a bunch of books he recommends (that are currently on my shopping list).

I got to meet my dear friend Nikki (of Bariatric Foodie fame). She's just as much a hoot in person as she in online. We chat often via instant message - helping each other with daily WLS struggles, sharing triumphs and daily mundane life adventures too. We also like to brainstorm blogging ideas together and chat about work stuff and such. So actually seeing each other in person was a true treat.

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I also got to meet Andrea -- the vitamin guru over at WLS Vitagarten. Her insight, expertise, patience and vast knowledge about vitamins and labs for WLS patients is amazing and I look to her often for information and sources. She's doing great work over on her blog and I'm so glad she's available to us as a community.  One direct quote I love of her's about Flintstones Vitamins is now a t-shirt, made by your's truly...

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Nessa and Beth and Christy were also a blast! Beth -of Melting Mama fame - is as real in person and she is online. It was a joy to meet her and get a taste of her fun spirit and hilarity. Nessa was a non-stop smile in shoes (except when she was barefoot). She never stopped laughing and was always keeping us in stitches with her antics. Christy was even more beautiful in person than her pictures revealed online. Among all the craziness, she was the sane one most of the time -- except when she was cracking up laughing with the rest of us.

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I loved getting to know Tony -- he is the gentle giant among us (apologizes to the original "Gentle Giant" Don Williams). Yes folks he really IS that tall. But he's also a total sweetheart and every time I saw him he was hugging someone new. I've had the pleasure of watching his WLS journey online and he has done an amazing job of losing weight (200 pound!!) and getting healthy - he's an outstanding success.

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Lora is an inspiration to me and I'm so happy I got to spend time with her at the conference and at King's Island on Sunday. She just celebrated her 3 year surgery anniversary, so she's like my big sister in this WLS world. She has worked so hard for her success and freely helps those coming behind her in this journey.  Her caring nature on the forums is always calming and informative. She shares her experiences openly and is an encouragement to us all. We share some of the same struggles with the frickin' scale but I'm so proud of her and how awesome she is. I count myself as blessed to know Lora.

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Saturday evening a big group of folks gathered at the Cadillac Ranch for dinner. So many people I had chatted with online for years and finally had the chance to know in person... and so many people who were new friends that I'm privileged to now know. While we waited for our food to arrive we passed around before pictures of ourselves (in the form of drivers licenses mostly) and shared in the triumph of each other's successes. After dinner there was bull riding and lots and lots of laughter.

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I'm so happy I was able to spend the weekend in Cincinnati and meet so many wonderful people. So many more people that I'd love to call out here but this post is getting pretty long already. I'm looking forward to the next OH Conference (whenever it happens to come close to me again).  If you have the chance to go to the Houston Conference in November -- GO! You'll be inspired and amazed and awed. And you probably won't get very much sleep - I know I didn't.

To see the rest of the photos from the conference you can check them out on my Facebook account (link in side bar) or you can see them on Flickr - click here - sorry, the Cupcake Porn and Spontaneous Lobby Yoga photos are only on Facebook, so you'll have to view them there rather than on Flickr.

~Pam

PS -- if you plan to go to the Houston OH Conference, use the coupon code "Tremble" and receive a discount of $25 off you ticket price.

Monday, May 17, 2010

What can we learn from the hawk?


photo by Pam Tremble (see the rest of this photo shoot here)

This morning on my drive to work I saw a hawk sitting atop a road sign - majestic and stalwart - surveying the land for breakfast, no doubt.  He was just minding his own business, not bothering anyone. When suddenly two small birds swooped up behind him and began to attack. The smaller birds kept pecking at the larger bird relentlessly, swooping down - peck, peck, peck - flying off and circling back around - peck, peck, peck.  Those two small birds were incessant in their attack.  But the large hawk continued to sit majestically on his morning perch, ignoring the pecking, not letting it bother him at all.  The hawk just stood strong in the face of adversity and was proud of who he was, despite the hatred and harassment shown by the two small birds.

What can we learn from the hawk?

As morbidly obese people we are often sneered at or teased or looked down upon by those who have never struggled with their weight. And later as we become the person who had "the surgery" we are faced with the uneducated remarks that we took the easy way out. And then when we lose massive amounts of weight, we're left with saggy skin that is unsightly and may invite comments or judgement from those who don't understand our situation.

When we are attacked, instead of cowering under the mean comments or succumbing to the emotional, physical or psychological attacks -- we can take the lead of the hawk and stand strong and be proud of who we are in the face of adversity. The hawk does not let the small attacking birds determine his self worth, his mood or his majestic self assurance - the hawk is secure in knowing who he is.  So too should we.

PS - for information about why birds do this, here's an interesting (and funny) article. In the bird watching community, this behavior is called "mobbing."

~Pam

Wednesday, May 12, 2010

Having Courage

Christine Kane is an amazing inspiration. She's an artist, songwriter and performer - and I love having her songs in my ear playing on my mp3 player when I'm working out. Who else will sing a song about women who wear "purple plastic panties" and make it an inspiring song for women everywhere? 

So anyway, I received this article in my email inbox this morning. It's about finding your courage. Not big courage like bungee jumping or running for president --- but doing little things everyday that make you stronger, that make you love yourself and make you strengthen your relationship with yourself.  I want to share it with you here.




52 Ways to Build Your Courage
by Christine Kane

 
“Excellence comes about as a result of habit. We become just by doing just acts, temperate by doing temperate acts, brave by doing brave acts.” - Aristotle

 
Courage is a muscle. Just as you wouldn’t go into the gym for the first time and lift a 100-pound dumbbell - you don’t have to begin building courage by running for President.

People often think that courage has to be big. Like sky-diving. Or giving a speech to a stadium.Those things do require courage, yes. But in some ways, that’s baby courage. It’s obvious courage. I call it Bungee-Jumping Courage.

Bungee-Jumping Courage is convenient because it lets us define ourselves as “not courageous.” When you set the stakes that high, then you never have to approach it. You simply get to say, “Hmm, I must not have courage.”

I’m not letting you get off that easy. Why?

 
Because there’s a deeper level of courage. It makes you strong. It makes you fall in love with yourself. It makes you fall in love with your life.  At its core, courage is about strengthening your relationship with yourself.

 
Here are 52 ways - little and big - to build your courage. Some of them seem completely foolish. But they’re not. They’re just uncomfortable. And that’s the whole point! Success in life is directly related to how uncomfortable you’re willing get. Now, get uncomfortable and go be courageous! (I took a couple liberties and added 5 extra WLS-related acts of courage to the end.)

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  1. Paint your nails green. (Guys get extra credit for this one!)
  2. Begin to live your life as an “experiment.”
  3. If you’re always spontaneous, plan something in advance and stick with it. If you’re a meticulous planner, do something spontaneous.
  4. Quit your job.
  5. Start a blog.
  6. Take a drawing class.
  7. Learn a new language.
  8. Begin yoga.
  9. Do something tourist-y in your own town.
  10. Get up in the morning after having a bad day yesterday. Encourage yourself to begin again.
  11. Give money away.
  12. Look into people’s eyes when you’re in public - on the street, buying groceries, etc.
  13. Hire someone to do a regular task you can’t stand doing. (i.e., mowing the lawn.)
  14. Play music more. Watch TV less.
  15. Get rid of everything in your home that’s not an Absolute Yes.
  16. Put on a goofy smile and look at other drivers when you stop at lights.
  17. Go vegan.
  18. If you never host parties or dinners - invite friends over for dinner.
  19. Teach a workshop.
  20. Start a mastermind group.
  21. Be bad at something. Do it anyway.
  22. Make requests. Don’t complain.
  23. Join a writer’s group.
  24. Hire a life coach.
  25. In social situations, allow people to talk with you instead of running around the room “networking.”
  26. Worry less. Act more.
  27. Enter a writing contest.
  28. Start your own business.
  29. Ask someone out on a date.
  30. Make a business card for yourself.
  31. Eat at an ethnic restaurant you’ve never considered.
  32. Respond. Don’t react.
  33. Get some music from another culture. Sit down and really listen.
  34. Listen more. Talk less. Especially to your kids.
  35. Take a swing dance class.
  36. Hire a physical trainer.
  37. Start a book club.
  38. Test-drive a luxury car.
  39. End a relationship that drains you or hurts you.
  40. Pray.
  41. Quit smoking.
  42. Take different routes to work each day.
  43. Drive around and get lost on purpose.
  44. Wake up at 5am and write.
  45. Assumptions are the enemy of success. Question them often.
  46. Excuses are the enemy of action. Stop making them.
  47. Admit when you are wrong.
  48. Write a fan letter to someone who’s not famous - a teacher, a grocery store clerk - anyone who delights you or touches you.
  49. Pick one incomplete in your life. (A cluttered garage, for instance.) Tackle it for 15 minutes a day.
  50. Do an open-mic night.
  51. Pay the toll of the person behind you.
  52. Run for President.
Pam's Additions
  1. Lose the extra weight that's been holding back a healthier you. Just begin. Take the first step.
  2. Sign up for a race. 5k, 10k, half marathon - the scarier the better.
  3. Dare to look inside your soul and find the person you really are.
  4. Change something about yourself.
  5. Try a new recipe.

Performer, songwriter, and creativity consultant Christine Kane publishes her 'LiveCreative' weekly ezine with more than 11,000 subscribers. If you want to be the artist of your life and create authentic and lasting success, you can sign up for a free subscription to LiveCreative at http://www.christinekane.com/
 
 

Friday, April 02, 2010

Thankful for Today

What are you thankful for today?  Let's hear your list....

Today is a GOOD day.  I'm happy.  I'm healthy.  My spirit is uplifted and I'm filled with joy.  Here's my list of good things for this morning ....
  • Forecast calls for 84-degrees today. For it being Apri in Michigan this is something to celebrate - a rare occurance indeed.
  • Daffodils are blooming - in my yard as well as all around town. There's also some other spring bulb/flower blooming right near my front porch that's beautiful and so happy looking - I don't know what it's called and can't recall seeing it before. I also checked the large flowerpots I left outdoors over the winter and stored under my porch... looks like my chives survived and are already growing like crazy.
  • The sunrise was beautiful this morning on the drive in to work.  I had trouble keeping my attention focused on the road ahead - I  kept looking out my left window to soak in the beauty of the sky.
  • I packed my gym bag with shorts, tank top and my walking shoes and I'll hit the trails after work for a power walk and some communing with nature.
  • I drove by the local auto repair shop this morning and the mechanics were outside planting an ocean of Johnny Jump Ups ... I mean literally an ocean, folks!  They had already planted a million and still had a million more in flats yet to plant. Can't wait to see how it looks on the drive home.
  • At my morning coffee pit stop this morning I had to fight my way to the coffee machine because the crew of guys from a lawn/landscaping company was there.  I've missed them over the winter (not that I know them or anything.)  They stop every morning to gas up the lawn equipment and stock up on snacks for the day. A sure sign that spring is here.
  • Last night was my final session of group therapy. I got a little weepy on the drive home because I'll miss the weekly gathering with these friends who have grown even more special in the past couple months. We all knew each other before the session started, of course... but we've grown closer through out shared experience in therapy.
  • I'm wearing flip flops today.
  • I tried to wear capris today. I tried.  Really I did.  Put on 3 different pairs from last summer. All too big. Strange and frustrating. But also makes me smile. Even if the scale doesn't budge, something else is happening somewhere in my body to make my pants too big.
What's on your list?
~Pam

Wednesday, March 31, 2010

I Can Do Hard Things

The following are not my words. Here I'm sharing the wise words of my friend Shari (Jupiter6) from Obesity Help. She shared this message on the OH forums last summer and it's inspired me ever since. 

The phrase, "I can do hard things" has become a mantra for many of us who were there for the original posting of this message.  I CAN do hard things.  And it makes me proud that I understand that about myself and when I'm faced with something hard, I can use those inspirational words to get me through a tough situation.  I have these words printed and hanging on my refrigerator (and bookmarked on my computer and saved to my flash drive and burned into my memory).  

So in case you hadn't read it yet, I wanted to share them with you. I hope they are as powerful for you as they have been for me.



"I've had some success-- I suppose I can admit as much at this point, although it feels weird. So now I get a lot of people who PM asking for advice, or saying they look up to me, and flattering though that is, it's silly, because I pretty much just follow the rules (okay, the ones that make sense) and it all comes out in the wash. So I usually don't have much to add when people ask how you get where I have gotten, there's no great mystery: the reason I have been successful in some ways that others have failed I usually pass off as luck.

But that's not entirely true. I just realized it. There actually *is* one more piece, and because I love ya, I am going to share it with you now. Sounds trifling, but it contains volumes.

Here it is: YOU CAN do hard things.

I know, you're saying, "What's your point?"

Sometimes, when faced with a challenge-- especially if you're a recovering addict as so many of us are, when you approach something difficult, your inner voice says, "Holy crap-- I can't DO that"...and you do an about-face-- you reach for the drug (or Ring Ding) of choice. To feel uncomfortable..and not to comfort yourself, is a hard thing --

but you can do hard things.

When it's late and you're tired, and you know you are supposed to walk, you said you would, and it's looking like it might rain-- it's hard as hell to lace those sneakers up and get out there---

but you can do hard things.

Protein shakes can taste yucky. It's hard to remember all those calcium supplements. It's hard to get 64 oz of water in. It's hard to plan meals, buy expensive and healthy choices, stay out of the cake in the lounge at work--

but you can do hard things.

You don't have to self-medicate. You don't have to eat those chips. You don't have to duck and avoid every unpleasant, difficult challenge in your path. Sometimes, the best bet is to admit their existance..."Yes, hard things, I see you trying to get in my way, but you know what? I CAN DO HARD THINGS!"

Sometimes this means having to survive a host of feelings you never felt before because you never let yourself feel them before-- stress, confusion, anger, rage. You can't numb them out or sand off their edges-- you have to stand right in your space and let them have a go at you-- and grit your teeth, and say to yourself, "Go ahead, get in my way. I'll get through this. I can do hard things."

And you will find that you will survive them. And as you survive them, you will face new ones, standing a little taller, because in time you will eventually understand and rely on the fact that you can do hard things. And eventually the "pass me some Ben and Jerry's--my boss is a jackass" response gives way to something new-- something that sounds more like this:

"Go ahead, Boss, bring it on. I'll have that on your desk by five."
"No thanks, Nancy, it's gorgeous but I really can't have an eclair right now."
"I guess I could just park back there and walk."
"It's only 8 ounces and I don't have to love the stuff, I'll just drink it quickly."
"If I spend ten minutes planning now, I won't be faced with tough choices later."

Post RNY living is no joke. It's not easy. It's not fun. It's not all "Whee, I'm a size 6!" Not everyone takes it as badly as I did, but there were days I *literally* cried because a kid at a store could have a cookie and I couldn't. I felt sorry for myself and holed up in my jammies, burning candles, and chatting here to avoid my fridge.

When I started, I could literally not walk further than my car, which is about 100 feet from my door. I bargained with myself that getting down to maybe 250 pounds would be JUST FINE, I didn't need more than that because the thought to ask more from myself was ridiculous, impossible-- who the hell loses 220 pounds? That's not even humanly possible, seriously!

And I found out the answer to who does that : it's ME. *I* can lose 220 pounds-- I know it because I *did* it . I can get in my supplements. I can learn to accept my new, imperfect body. And with planning and management, I can make a post op life that still provides pleasure, joy and fulfillment.

And I don't do those things because they are easy-- I do them because they're hard, but I *can*. I can do hard things.

And so can you. And you will. So the next time it's all too much (and it is for me too, although less often as I grow), look your RNY challenge-- whatever it is--- boldy in the face and say, "I can do this. I can do hard things."

Then pull out all the stops and grab the brass ring-- it's there for the taking!"


Tuesday, March 30, 2010

I Met Ron from Biggest Loser Today!

Our Workplace Wellness Program hosted a lecture by Ron Morelli from last season of The Biggest Loser - Season 7. Then after he spoke, I took a couple minutes of his time to chat and get a picture.  I wrote four pages of notes during his talk and wanted to share a few of the important points he made.

My employer is outstanding.  We've got this great Wellness Program that encourages the 4,000-or-so employees on the job, plus retirees and all our families to be healthier and take care of our overall wellness.  One of the programs they offer is the "Lunch-n-Learn" lecture series (which is what today's lecture was). These lectures are held monthly and include topics on a wide variety of topics - next month is about laughter, for instance.  I've also joined the competitive pedometer walking program that begins in a couple weeks - that should be fun!

So anyway... back to Ron...

This is going to be a long post, so I'm going to try and break it up as best I can.  Somehow try to organize my thoughts and do my best not to ramble. Wish me luck!  LOL  I know we, as WLS'ers, are most interested in hearing about Ron's gastric bypass surgery - but honestly he didn't talk about it much.  He did, however, have some very profound things to say about eating, exercise and getting your head screwed on straight.

UPDATES -- First a few updates that I'm sure others are wondering about. Since the show Ron has maintained his weight loss and hovers around 250 pounds (his highest weight ever was 527lbs).  His son Michael, also on the show, has maintained his weight loss as well and is currently attending college at Michigan State University.  His other son, Max, who we saw on the show during family visits, is doing well with his weight loss efforts and has lost over 100 pounds already.

DIETING HISTORY (and RNY) -- He's been obese his whole life.  He weighed 200 pounds at age 9 and was up to 400 in high school.  So he's well versed in dieting. He's done every diet you can think of, had his jaw wired shut, starved himself, did Weight Watchers and Atkins and even spent time at a weight loss hospital a couple times.  Then 14 years ago he had gastric bypass surgery.  He lose a lot of weight very quickly, as expected. But gained much of it back because he had not permanently changed his habits for the way he ate and the way he moved. He didn't gain ALL his weight back though.  Remember, his highest weight was 527 before surgery - which was 13 years before he went on The Biggest Loser where he started out weighing 420 pounds. So yes, there was regain, but not 100% regain as you hear so often rumored around the message boards. Think about it.  He maintained almost a 100lbs loss for 13 years -- as an average, of course, since he freely admits his weight fluctuated widely during that time period.

POUCH SIZE & STOMA -- His stomach pouch is still the "right" size - still pouch-sized.  So we know that a mature RNY pouch is around 6oz to 9oz in size and can hold about 8-12oz of food, so we can assume this is the size of his pouch now, 14 years later.  However, he said that his stoma has stretched (the opening between the pouch and intestines)  - in essence allowing a portion of his small intestine to "act" like a stomach pouch.  I didn't ask - and he didn't go into detail since this wasn't a WLS presentation and I think I was the only other WLS'er in the room - but I don't know if the stoma was fixed or revised at anytime or if he just adapts to that issue with how he eats now.

BEHIND THE SCENES ON THE SHOW -- So before contestants even begin doing the show, they see the doctor, right?  We know that part already.  But what was interesting to me is that the doctor is the one who sets the calorie intake limits for each contestant - not the trainers.   The doctor alters that calorie limit as they lose weight, as needed.  Ron was assigned 2025 calories/day.  His son Michael ate 1850 calories/day. These numbers were based on their RMR (resting metabolic rate) and an estimate of what they would burn in the gym everyday as well as the show's goal for their weekly/daily weight loss numbers. Once their daily calorie intake limits were set, the trainers (Bob and Jillian) set the nutrition balance for those calories based on the expected workout loads. The cool thing about their calorie intake goals is that each contestant decided on their OWN menu - they would make a shopping list and someone would buy their food for them (they apparently didn't have time to go grocery shopping since they were working out or whatever).  Then at meal times, they would cook their own stuff.  Michael would have oatmeal for breakfast and Ron would have eggs, or instance. No personal chefs on the ranch.  I'll cover some food and nutrition stuff later.

BOB & JILLIAN -- Bob is a vegan - not just vegetarian, but full blown vegan.  Did you know that?  I didn't. Ron laughed while telling about how often Bob eats.  "He keeps fruit in his pockets, gym bag, jacket, everywhere - he needs to eat every couple hours."  (I can see why he likes Yoga so much now.)  Jillian eats more variety, but she's all about organic and whole foods.  As for what kind of trainers they are?  Bob's tougher than Jillian.  And all that yelling Jillian does - apparently not a reflection of her personality.  "She's sweet and shy and very quiet. And she's short but solid and is a double black belt in every martial art you can think of."

BODYBUGG & GO WEAR FIT -- Someone today asked about the BodyBugg each contestant wears (similar to my GoWearFit / BodyMedia device) -- Ron loves it and will be renewing his subscription so he can continue to wear it.  Ron would burn about 6,000 calories a day and Michael would burn about 10,500 calories/day. Holy Cow!  Now, off the ranch, Ron maintains a calorie deficit of about 500 calories (rather than 4,000 like when on the show). Ron's quote about the device: "It is an invaluable tool for weight loss and can be very useful for everyone."

FINDING "IT" -- As an expert dieter who has tried them all - I believe him when he said: "Any diet or surgery or jaw wiring trick will work."  But the problem we haven't learned anything from it.  If you get your jaw wired shut, don't eat for 2 months and when the wires come off you go back to eating like you used to - you didn't learn anything.  Whatever method you use to lose weight you have to CHANGE the way you eat forever, CHANGE the way you move forever, CHANGE the way your maintain your habits forever. Those changes, those habits, those realizations that you've been doing it wrong up until now -- those he refers to as "IT".  When IT finally settles in your head and becomes part of your being, the weight will stay off.  If you don't have IT, the weight will return.

THE PAC-MAN EFFECT -- We've heard this before, but I liked the name he gave it. (Actually he'd heard it  from a doctor at an in-patient weight loss hospital he'd been in years ago.)  The fat cells we have when we're about 21 years old are the fat cells we'll always have.  We don't grow more, we don't lose them as we lose weight - fat cells will always be there in our bodies, they expand with more fat or they shrink when we lose fat. But those fat cells are like the little PacMan guy in the video game... always chomping his mouth open and closed looking too be fed.  Fat cells, when they get too skinny, will send signals to our brain demanding more food. Ron's comment was that the wished he'd never been told that because he used it as an excuse to eat more after losing weight ("I need to eat, my fat cells are too skinny.").  But personally, I like knowing this information because it makes me aware that after I lose weight and my fat cells are screaming for food -- that I can safely ignore those screams.  I can be secure in the knowledge that the screams for food I'm hearing is my fat cells bitching and moaning that they want fat.  But you know what?  I worked too freaking hard to make them skinny to just feed them more food, so I'm going to ignore them and be happy about letting them starve!

IT'S HARD -- "All those diets of my past were my attempt at finding the easy way to lose weight." Even if they were hard to do at the time, he was looking for "easy" but never found it.  Losing weight is HARD.  It's a STRUGGLE.  There is no easy way.  It's all hard and you have to work to get what you strive for.  Ron admits: "I hate working out. I hate exercise. It's hard.  But I do it everyday anyway."  The sooner we realize this is hard, the faster we'll learn to face the challenges and plow through it.

FACING FEAR -- "When you've always been fat, the fear of being thin is enormous."

After he said that, I wish I'd had a moment of silence to just take it in. But he kept talking and I kept scribbling notes.  When we're heavy we blame everything that's wrong in our lives on the fat. I can't play tennis because I'm fat.  I can't find a soul mate because I'm fat. I can't keep friends because I'm fat. I can't find a job because I'm fat. So what happens when you're suddenly not fat any longer and all those things are still wrong?  Fat can't fix everything. When you're thin you're still going to suck at tennis. So instead of blaming fat for all the things wrong in your life, you need to realize that you are letting FEAR hold you back from being thin -- because somewhere in our subconscious, we realize that it's not the fat that makes all those things bad in our lives, it's just us.  So when we realize we can't blame the fat anymore, and start fixing the things we want to fix - independent of the fat issue - then we'll finally be allowed to let thin be what it really is.  Just thin.

EXCUSES -- "So what?"  That's the response you need to have when you hear excuses. Ron admits that all his life he was the king of excuses... but at some point you need to change your mindset about excuses and start facing them with "so what!".  My knees hurt so I can't exercise. So what! Exercise anyway.  I'm too tired to cook a healthy dinner.  So what! Cook healthy anyway. It's raining out, I can't do my run today. So what. Run anyway. Don't let excuses stand in the way of your goals.

FOOD & NUTRITION -- On the Biggest Loser ranch all processed food was banned. Well, unless you were a sponsor of the show and had contestants eating your processed food on camera (think Subway) ... but as soon as the camera were turned off, the trainers would yell: "Ok, spit it out!" Yeah... no processed foods allowed, which includes processed deli meats. Remember, Bob's a vegan (and received a jovial phone call from Ron when the "double meat" ads ran) and Jillian eats organic whole foods.  So that's what the contestants eat too.  They focus their meals on nutrient dense foods rather than calorie dense (for instance a salad gives you a large volume of food, but very few calories).  They also focused on whole foods that were lean and healthy. They learned how to eat properly through regular training in the kitchen (it wasn't clear if Bob and Jillian were the only ones doing these trainings or if there were others in the kitchen teaching about how to cook).  Contestants at 3 meals and 2 snacks per day - every 4 hours.  So their daily calorie intake was divided accordingly --- so 2000 calories divided by 4 is 500 which meant 3 meals were 500 calories each and the 2 snacks each got 250 calories. Along with their normal calorie intake they were also drinking 5 quarts of water each day and eliminated all added salt from their diet. Ron also mentioned that to boost flavor on lean meats and fish, they used a lot of Mrs. Dash and other herbs and spices as long as they had no added salt.

THE WORKOUTS -- There were "taping days" and "dark days" on the show.  On taping days we see the teams working together with the trainer in the gym, many times all doing the same workout routine and all being coached (and screamed at) step by step by Bob or Jillian.  That was not the norm.  Most days were "dark days" - meaning the cameras were not on in the gym and the contestants were just there doing their own thing. They could wear whatever workout clothes they wanted to on dark days and they chose to do the exercises they enjoyed the best (or worked best for their own personal goals).  So Ron walked and swam a lot... Michael loved boxing.

WEAKNESSES -- Since we're talking about food, I thought this was worth sharing.  We all have certain food weaknesses, right?  For me it's fresh deli salsa -- not the salsa specifically but the fact that when I buy salsa, tortilla chips mysteriously appear in my shopping cart and I have no control over their appearance. So I don't buy fresh deli salsa - ever.  For Ron, it's peanut butter.  It's simply not allowed in his house.  He used to love peanut butter by the spoonful dipped in whipped cream.  He said it calls to him if it's in the house: "Ron, I'm over here!"  So we need to recognize if we have trigger foods like that and simply eliminate them from our lives.  If you don't have control, then don't put yourself in the position of battling that trigger.

IF YOU EVER GET THE CHANCE -- Ron told us that if we ever get the chance to go grocery shopping with a nutritionist, do it!  He learned so much about understanding food from his shopping trip while on the store (I didn't watch that whole season, so must have missed that episode).  One big thing he learned is that the nutrition label doesn't tell the whole story -- the ingredient list is just as important as the nutrition label.  For instance, a diet soda might have zeros all down the nutrition label... 0 calories, 0 fat, 0 carbs, etc ... but what are those 30 ingredients doing in the ingredient list?  The body knows it's getting those ingredients and depending on what those ingredients are, might freak out and do crazy stuff that scientists haven't figure out yet. So keep the ingredient list in mind when shopping.  Fewer ingredients is better.

JILLIAN'S FOOD ADVICE -- He said this one a couple times, so I'll repeat it.  Jillian says:  "If it doesn't come off a tree or out of the ground... or if it didn't have a mother - don't eat it."

HANDLING HOLIDAYS -- How many holiday or special occasion meals are there in a year?  (Christmas, Thanksgiving, Easter, Birthday, weddings, etc.) Maybe 15?  How many meals are there that are just normal everyday meals? If we eat 3 meals a day and subtract the 15 special meals in a year -- that means we eat 1050 other meals in a year.  15 special days. 350 normal days.  We didn't get morbidly obese from 15 meals a year when we indulge in a special holiday meal.  We grew our way to morbid obesity from the 1050 meals where we didn't make healthy choices and eat only until we were satisfied. So now... if we handle the 1050 normal meals in a healthy way, we don't have to worry about the 15 special meals.  When Easter dinner comes around next weekend, go ahead and eat. But Easter dinner is just dinner.  That doesn't mean Easter breakfast and lunch and snacks and snitches, it means just dinner. And when Monday morning arrives we're not still indulging in Easter dinner, we're back to a normal Monday morning breakfast.

AFTERWARDS -- After his hour-long lecture I made my way to the front of the room for a little chat. I wanted to THANK him for being brave enough to go on The Biggest Loser after having gastric bypass surgery.  Facing regain after WLS is hard and I appreciate his willingness to be open about his past. I also told him I'd had surgery - he smiled and asked how I was doing.  I also asked him if he knew about ObesityHelp.com - he didn't - but I told him that he had his own cheering section on the forums and we talked about his success after each week's show.  I showed him my before-and-after picture (at the bottom of this page) which I keep on my phone as a handy reminder and he congratulated me on my success.  Then I had a gal nearby snap a photo on my camera phone.  He was genuine and patient with all us lookie-loos who needed to have a moment of his time.  A very nice man, for sure.

MY NEW OPINION -- Remember last August when I did a race where Helen and Shannon were participants? (Helen was winner of Season 7.) After chatting with Helen for a few minutes after the race I had a pretty big turn around on my opinion of The Biggest Loser. I used to like the show. But...  The "advice" she gave to me in those few minutes of talking - and the advice I heard her giving to others who were nearby - was not very good advice. In fact, it was pretty dangerous advice for those who want to lose weight in a healthy and safe way. From that point forward I decided to not watch the show and to not promote it as a good weight loss inspiration source.  I still question the tactics of the show -- extreme workouts without enough nutrition to back it up -- but after listening to Ron today, my opinion has changed a bit.  The level of nutritional knowledge Ron had before the show compared to after was significant and when he talks about what the most important part of the show was, he talks about that education in the kitchen. After hearing Ron and his passion for the changes he's made in his life... and finding "IT" ... maybe I don't hate The Biggest Loser as much as I have for the past several months.

~Pam

Tuesday, February 23, 2010

Some Quotes

I found a list of motivational fitness and nutrition quotes and wanted to share them here.
  • It is easier to maintain good health than to recover it.  ~Antonia Novello, MD, former US Surgeon General
  • Those who do not find time to exercise, sooner or later will have to find time for illness.  ~Earl of Derby
  • It's never too late to begin.  ~Paffenbarger
  • You don't stop playing because you grow old, you grow old because you stop playing.  ~Ben Franklin
  • If you are looking for creative ideas, go out walking.  Angels whisper to a man when he goes for a walk.  ~Raymond Inmon
  • Movement is a celebration of life.  ~John Selland
  • We are what we repeatedly do.  ~Aristotle
  • The wise man should consider that health is the greatest of human blessings.  Let food be your medicine.  ~Hippocrates
  • Never eat more than you can life.  ~Miss Piggy

Sunday, January 10, 2010

500

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The beach where it all began.


It's amazing to me that this is my 500th post.  Today I went back and read my very first post here on Journey to a Healthier Me.  August 5, 2006 - A Day at the Beach. That was the day I made the decision to have WLS.  It's hard to imagine it's been 3.5 years and I've stuck to this online journal all this time.  I'm glad I have though.  The friends I've made and the connections I've made have changed the course of my life forever and I'm eternally thankful for the experience.

So today I want to say thank you.  For being my friend.  For listening to my ramblings and tolerating my whining.  For encouraging me along my journey and sharing your experiences as you travel your journey too. Thank you for being here so I'm not talking to blank space.  Thank your for your kind words and constant friendship.  You all are so special to me and my life is better for knowing you.

~Pam

Monday, August 17, 2009

Stop Saying "Only"

*** Pet Peeve Rant Alert *** There is nothing that irks me more than when I see people say, "I've ONLY lost XX pounds."
C'mon people.... let's celebrate our losses and stop being negative about what hasn't happened yet. Stop comparing yourself to what others are doing and focus on your own triumphs. You've lost an "AMAZING xx pounds"... celebrate it.
Stop getting down on yourself for being a success. This isn't a race to a finish line, this is about the rest of your life and there's no rush to get to a goal weight. Enjoy the journey. Take a few minutes to look around and see what fantastic things are happening to you today.
Rejoice in your improving health and how much progress you're making. Be proud of yourself instead of worrying about what else you have yet to do. Be kind to yourself. No more negative self talk, Ok?
~Pam

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